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Apr, 2017

Sideline Suggestions (10 Things kids say they don’t want their parent’s to do)

Sideline Suggestions  (10 Things kids say they don’t want their parent’s to do)

By Dr. Darrell Burnett

Don’t yell out instructions.  During the game I‘m trying to concentrate on what the coach says and what I’ve been practicing.  It’s easier for me to do my best if you save instructions and reminders for practice or just before the game.

Don’t put down the officials.  This embarrasses me and I sometimes wonder whether the official is going to be tougher on me because my parents yell.

Don’t yell at me in public.  It will just make things worse because I’ll be upset, embarrassed, or worried that you are going to yell at me the next time I do something “wrong.”

Don’t yell at the coach.  When you yell about who gets to play what position it just stirs things up and takes away from the fun.

Don’t put down my teammates.  Don’t make put-down remarks about any of my teammates who make mistakes.  It takes away from our team spirit.

Don’t put down the other team.  When you do this you’re not giving us a very good example of sportsmanship so we get mixed messages about being “good” sports.

Don’t lose your cool.  I love to see you excited about the game, but there’s no reason to get so upset that you lose your temper.  It’s our games and all the attention is supposed to be on us.

Don’t lecture me about mistakes after the game.  Those rides home in the car after the game are not a good time for lectures about how I messed up.  I already feel bad.  We can talk later, but please stay calm, and don’t forget to mention things I did well during the game.

Don’t forget how to laugh and have fun.  Sometimes it’s hard for me to relax and have fun during the game when I look over and see you so tense and worried.

Don’t forget that it’s just a game.  Odds are I am not going to make a career out of playing sports.  I know I may get upset If we lose, but I also know that I’m usually feeling better after we go get a pizza.  I need to be reminded sometimes that it’s just a game.


Some other suggestion to consider: (published by AYSO’s Kids Zone)

Leave Pets at Home.  Even if your pet is well-behaved, not everyone is in love with animals.  People may be allergic or have anxiety around animals.

Cheer, Don’t Coach.  So many things are going on in a player’s mind during the game - communication between teammates, communication amongst the other team, the noise of the crowd, the instructions from the coach – and that doesn’t include the concentration it takes to handle the ball.  Instead shout occasional words or encouragement, in both the moment of achievement and the moment of education.

Stay in the Designated Area.  Stay away from the sideline, never go near the goals and absolutely stay off the field.  You may get in the way of the referees, coaches or block the view of other spectators. 

If you have nothing to nice to say, don’t say anything at all.  Avoid Cursing.  Don’t bad mouth the referee or get into shouting matches with the parents on the other team.  Remember, even if the players aren’t on your child’s team, they’re still kids.  Avoid making any negative comments about players on the other team or the referee.  If you feel the referee is doing a bad job, keep it to yourself, go take the referee test and help the local organization by refereeing.  All organizations can use more referees.

Stay positive.  If your player makes a mistake he will feel bad enough without negative comments from the sideline.  Instead, encourage him.  Let him know that it is an opportunity to learn and for self-improvement.

Relax.  Enjoy the game.



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